There is no Good Card for This: What to Say and Do When Life is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love Book Review

4 out of 5 stars

The challenge said I had to pick a self-help book and so I walked into the library’s section for self-help books and pulled out several trying to see which one I was interested in. After all if I was going to read a self-help book I wanted it to be something that could help me in the long run. I was pretty excited when I came across this book and not just because of all the pictures that it has, but if I’m being honest that was part of the draw. I was more excited because I think this book tackles something that everyone goes through at some point in their lives.

This book goes over why we may be hesitant to reach out to those around us who may be having a hard time, our expectations of others when we are having a hard time, and how to be there for others. It talks about the small things we can do in order to support one and other, and helping us gain confidence in difficult situations when dealing with others who are struggling. This book is a self-help book which means there is exercises throughout the book that need to be done. I mean you can read this book without doing the exercises but then are you really helping yourself.

I have a difficult time with books that tell me to take a step back and actually deal with emotions. My thoughts are always how is this going to help, you aren’t exactly my therapist and you can’t give me feedback. My other issue is that those books remind me of college when we had to do in book exercises so I’m like no I just finished school and am no where near ready to go back. So that being said I read through some of this and refused to do the exercises but then I went back and thought I can’t tell you all to take those seriously if I refused to do them.

On the subject of honesty, I have to be honest with you about this, this book made me cry within the first chapters. It wasn’t because of anything that they outright said but it was because of those exercises they have you do. It was the empathy workouts that were included all in that first section, they made you forgive yourself and not be so harsh on yourself and those kinds of things are hard on me so it was a nice reminder.

I loved the images that were included throughout each section because I could relate to the things they were saying. I loved how the images were telling other people’s stories in relation to what the authors were discussing. I loved how this book read as if the authors were in a therapy session with you and how the feedback given can apply to anyone not just one person.

I recommend this book to anyone who knows someone who is going through a hard time but isn’t too confident on how they would respond in those times. I think this book gives you ways to handle difficult situations in a great manner and Chapter 7 is a great review if you don’t have time to read through the whole thing.

About the Book: The creator of the viral hit “Empathy Cards” teams up with a compassion expert to produce a visually stunning and groundbreaking illustrated guide to help you increase your emotional intelligence and learn how to offer comfort and support when someone you know is in pain.

When someone you know is hurting, you want to let her know that you care. But many people don’t know what words to use—or are afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing. This thoughtful, instructive guide, from empathy expert Dr. Kelsey Crowe and greeting card maverick Emily McDowell, blends well-researched, actionable advice with the no-nonsense humor and the signature illustration style of McDowell’s immensely popular Empathy Cards, to help you feel confident in connecting with anyone experiencing grief, loss, illness, or any other difficult situation.

Written in a how-to, relatable, we’ve-all-been-that-deer-in-the-headlights kind of way, There Is No Good Card for This isn’t a spiritual treatise on how to make you a better person or a scientific argument about why compassion matters. It is a helpful illustrated guide to effective compassion that takes you, step by step by step, past the paralysis of thinking about someone in a difficult time to actually doing something (or nothing) with good judgment instead of fear.

There Is No Good Card for This features workbook exercises, sample dialogs, and real-life examples from Dr. Crowe’s research, including her popular “Empathy Bootcamps” that give people tools for building relationships when it really counts. Whether it’s a coworker whose mother has died, a neighbor whose husband has been in a car accident, or a friend who is seriously ill, There Is No Good Card for This teaches you how to be the best friend you can be to someone in need.

About the book is borrowed from Goodreads.

If you would like to read this book you can find it at
Amazon or look for it at your local library.

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